Do you feel like sometimes you are not good and capable enough? Do you feel that everything that you do results in failure? Have you ever wondered what life would be like if  you could learn how to love yourself again?

When I decided to change my attitude and mindset, I fell in love with life again. Not only that it helped my mental health, but it also allowed me to pursue my passions. Today I want to share with you the 8 ways to love yourself.

• Know your worth

We might think that love needs something to be earned and work for. We always feel that pressure to perform and meet their expectations to feel loved and accepted by others.We should realize that it’s far more fulfilling to love and appreciate ourselves for who we are. We need to love ourselves and know our worth first before loving others.

• Stop the comparison game

It’s so easy to compare yourself to others without even realizing that you are. Comparison steals your peace of mind and happiness. It fills our mind with self doubt. We will start to ask ourselves that we are not good enough when in fact we really are.

I want you to remember that, we don’t walk on the same path, their Chapter 25 is way different from our first chapter. Work your butt off and always put our best foot forward in everything that we do.

• Do the things that you love

You love to sing? Sing your heart out. You love to dance? Dance till you drop. You love to paint? Paint that masterpiece. Start doing things that we are passionate about. Now that we are older it’s harder to make time to do and do things that you love. I believe that doing things that ignites your passion will help you to be more motivated and productive. 

• Mindset change

I have that darkest mindset that you can think of. I felt that I didn't have a real purpose. I always think the worst in every situation. As I became aware that those limiting beliefs hindered on fueling my passion, I did my best to think positively, and always looked on the bright side of things. Believing in myself and in my abilities was a complete game changer. I was able to show off and share to everyone the things that I am passionate about.

Positive affirmation also helps in cultivating a positive mindset. Here are some of of my favorite positive affirmations:

• I am worthy
• I am doing my best
• Struggle doesn't last forever
• I only fail if I quit
• I am capable of reaching greatness

• Live at the present moment

Stop living in the past and start living in the now. This is an important advice. Too many of us are focused on everything that we did “wrong” in our past and let that stop us from living in the present. Past is past, you've may done bad things or made wrong decisions but there's no turning back. What we can do is to learn from those mistakes from the past to avoid doing these on the present.

They say, if you keep thinking about the past, you are stressed and if you keep thinking of the future, you are anxious.

• Know your WHY | Finding your purpose

When you know the purpose of your life, you tend to live a more meaningful existence than those who don’t. You tend to live each day to the fullest, because you know who you are, where you’re coming from, and where you’re going.

We don’t get burned out because of what we do. We get burned out because we forget why we do it

How can we better identify and express our why?  Begin by answering these basic questions:
What do we do?
How do we do it?
For whom do we do it?
Why do we do it? 
Once you answer these questions you will notice that you have a clearer direction in your life.

Self acceptance and starting accepting  your flaws

It's time to accept the fact that no one judge you more than you judge yourself. This means that you need to accept who you are and not who you think you're supposed to be. This also means that you need to accept everything about yourself - good or bad. 

Always remember as cliche as it sounds that "nobody is perfect", we commit mistakes we cannot undo it but we can learn from it.


Gratitude starts with looking or noticing the goodness in life. Have a gratitude journal or use the Notes app on your phone. List three things that you are grateful for everyday. Once this habit has been established you will notice how it will turn your life 360 degrees.


All of these tips are easier said than done. I am not encouraging you to do all of it at the same time. Follow your intuition and do it at  your own pace. 

Disclaimer: I am not an expert, I am not a therapist nor a coach. I just read a lot of self-help books, listened to motivational podcasts and watched tons of self- development videos that helped me to change my attitude and mindset. I am still a work in progress and I want to share my journey with you.

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